🌿Do you live with someone who is extremely critical, competes with you, pampers the self, wallops in jealously, blocks from learning and just discusses other people? Hardly discusses progressive ideas. Such a one can turn violent if challenged in fear of his ignorance being exposed. A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Confident people are secure.
🌿Nobody can think and hit someone at the same time – these are mutually exclusive occurrences. Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent. There are many people who suffer in the hands of people suffering with low self esteem. Never suffer under the whims of one’s identity crisis. But while dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.
🌿Do you remember the first time you were doubted? Do you remember the first person who cast aspersions on your capabilities? Do you remember the first person who broke your heart and made you believe that you are good for nothing? Is there someone you wish you never gave your phone number?
🌿Are you comfortable with your body or are you disturbed by some hidden flaws? Do you feel harassed whenever the media flashes superior body images? Do you find yourself seeking approvals from others in need of perpetual affirmations?
🌿Has life treated you so harshly that you’ve retreated to self-isolation? You are a regular victim of betrayal. Suffered far too often with rejection? Bypassed during promotions…bypassed by good guys and all girls in your clique have been taken? You live in a solitary world. Living in constant failure entertaining suicidal tendencies?
🌿Would you want an opportunity to confront your past? You are a product of your early relationships. What you think your significant others think of you. Things that happen to you and around you shape your destiny. You are a product of your stress, shock, crisis, pressures, pains, traumas, problems. Children learn how to handle feelings, loses, conflicts etc at home. Would you want to protect your child from self-doubt? Did you know self rejection can even destroy the unborn?
🌿Have you found yourself comparing yourself with others more than you would care to admit and feel like you don’t measure up? Do you always find yourself consulting others whether you should take up a certain job offer? Or seeking others’ approval before starting a given business venture? Or always enquiring from others on whether you should see somebody on a date?
🌿Deep down your heart, you recognize that you are not very confident with your own decisions. You need a holding hand to knock some doors or see some high end individual. Factually, some people will seek approval from others virtually in all decisions from buying a car, house curtains, clothes, shoes, giving, holiday destination, name it.
🌿Do you live in constant fear of the unknown? Fear of failure? Fear of being fired? Are you overindulging to hide your inherent fears? Or have you unconsciously resorted to permissiveness, poor boundaries and affairs in search for approval and happiness not knowing that others are taking advantage of your vulnerability?
🌿Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. You can’t rise above your self-image. It’s your life ceiling. Who you are determines what you see.
🌿If you are still able to read this article, you haven’t lost everything. It is never too late to be what you might have been. There is still hope. I desire to walk you through a 7-step procedure to enhance your self-image, boost your self confidence and thereby help you overcome self-doubt.
🌿Join me on Friday the 7th Oct from 6pm to 8pm at KICC – Amphitheatre where I will be teaching on, “Overcome Self Doubt.” I will show you how to use failure as a stepping stone into your future. You will learn how to close the door on your past. You’ll enjoy your company once more and become your best friend and be confident with your life. Never again shall you lose your identity.
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🌿We will have a Teens & Young Adults 3-D Conference (Dare; Dream; Desire) on 10th Dec 2016 from 9am to 5pm at KICC whereby we will examine: building self confidence; achieving goals; and making choices. The conference charges are KES 2,000. Previous videos and articles are also available at: www.kinyanjuinganga.com.
🌿As a mentorship club, Sense 101 Life Club, we meet the first Friday of every month from 6pm to 8pm at KICC for mentorship and life coaching. To become a club member, get in touch with us through the contacts shared in this article. You will be required to pay a one-off membership fee of KES 1,000.
Dr. Kinyanjui Nganga, Ph.D
Chief Mentor – Sense 101 Life Club.