17th Aug Sense with Dr. Kinyanjui Nganga
Principle 10: Reward your child
Rewarding a desired outcome encourages continued effort. Be careful not to reward ‘non-effort’ like beauty, height or talent. Rewards should be based on the child’s deliberate effort to go the extra mile in her duties (academics, sports, chores).
I recommend three simple guidelines on rewarding a desired behaviour:-
i) Learn to celebrate yourself first. You’ll hardly learn to genuinely reward others until you learn how to celebrate your own milestones.
ii) Keep your promise. Do not make empty promises. Before committing yourself, be sure you’re in control of all variables.
iii) A reward must be valued by the recipient. Only then does it motivate.
Q. When is the last time you celebrated yourself? Do you only organize birthday parties for others and neglect yourself unconscious of the damage this does in your own life?